After reading this on the True Dad Confessions website:

"I fought for custody, but only enough to not look like a jerk to my kids. Woo-hoo! Every other weekend I get to be daddy, but the rest of my life is mine. I get the best of both worlds. Screw you, bitch, Im Freeeeeee at last! Woo-hoooooooooooo!"

AND after talking to one of my best friends, who is mother to three children with two "deadbeat dads", I really wanted to write a post about how becoming a mother alters every aspect of a woman's life while fatherhood is basically something men can "opt out" of from the get go.

This is one of many reasons I won't be having kids.

My friend has made such an impact on me with her life of single motherhood. I'm always here to listen when she needs a friend to talk -even though I have no advice for her because I have no clue what her life is like.

Oh but I can imagine.

She is so fucking overwhelmed ALL the time because her children's fathers don't do jack diddly when it comes to helping to raise their kids.

She NEVER has a break from all of her kids at once. NEVER. She can't go to the grocery store with all three of them because it's too stressful. She can't get one single weekend of reprieve from the demands of her kids. She has no freedom.

She is one of the millions of women in the world who are consumed by motherhood and it's demands 24/7. Referring to motherhood as a full time job is almost an understatement.

Whereas, for her children's fathers...parenthood is barely a part time endeavor.

These motherfuckers think their contribution as a father ends at ejaculation!

IT FUCKING DOESN'T!

No, you see, men have the luxury of fatherhood being "a choice". Society has very low expectations of men when it comes to fatherhood. Paying child support and seeing your kids two or three times A MONTH makes one a decent dad who can have a clear conscience and be free from scorn and judgment.

The bar ain't set so low when you're a mom.

My friend often tells me how upset it makes her that her children's fathers have so much freedom while she is chained to her kids every minute of the fucking day. I can't imagine myself in her shoes. Granted, this is a woman who has made POOR choices but still, she's been my friend for 8 years and a lot of the time, I feel incredibly sorry for her.

She doesn't know how much longer she can do this. I honestly think she wants to die and I am terribly worried for her. She feels guilty all the time about how awful of a mother she must be because she is always so unhappy and stressed out. And her children have no one but her. She told me the other day she doesn't know how much of this life she can endure. It really struck a chord with me because even though I'm not in her position, I can IMAGINE living that way.

Seeing her life consumed with the drudgery and demands of motherhood, while her kid's fathers do what the fuck they want, have the luxury of deciding when to be involved with their children, and barely paying any child support in the meantime makes me wanna put a hit out on those two douchebags.

I don't know what I'd do if I was in her shoes but I can TOTALLY see myself packing the kids up in the car, dropping them off at their father's houses, and hightailing it out of the fucking state never to be seen again.

Sounds sad huh? And desperate? Well IT IS! Which is why I would do anything in my power to avoid having kids and fucking us all up. Myself and them.

Sorry motherhood, you ain't gettin me caught in this death trap of woe and misery! NO MA'AM! YOU'LL NEVER TAKE ME ALIVE!

HA!

OK, all clowning aside, parenthood will never amount to equal responsibilities for men and women. It never, ever will and I think everyone knows it. Who knows whether I'd be childfree if I had been born a man. I can't speak from that point of view. I can only say that the reason I am so strongly against becoming a mother is because I'm a woman and I know WHAT IT ENTAILS.

And I want no fucking part of it ever.