The quotes from this post have been taken from sites across the web. I won't be linking to them for privacy reasons but if you'd like to visit any of them, shoot me an email and I'll provide you with the link.

Where they came from isn't as important as the message they convey. The truths that other woman reveal about the harsh realities motherhood are a gift! This kind of honesty should do more than just "scare" women away from motherhood. Hell I don't care about scaring people, I just want women to THINK and be mentally prepared for what goes with mommyhood. I am so over robotic, thoughtless breeding.

I honestly think that if more people read stuff like this and took more than 5 fucking seconds to fully and thoughtfully THINK about whether parenthood is a worthwhile endeavor for them, more than half wouldn't go through with it. Why? Because it presents an image many people don't expect and haven't fathomed.

Those who expect that parenthood will have lots of shitty, desperately miserable moments, are lot less disillusioned with it once they go through it. I simply don't believe most people go into parenthood expecting it to be as bad as it often is. So you know what, they need to hear it, see it, start feeling it and THEN decide whether it's a good idea for them or not.

Onto the quotes...

"Why is it that we are conned into thinking that motherhood is a blissful, satisfying, and rewarding blessing? I attend a mothers group for young mothers and the other day one of the social workers asked..."Who hates being a mom?" Everyone looked at each other as if they were afraid of the question and that admitting to it is a mortal sin. My hand shot up. After a year of being a mother I can't hate it more. It just prevents me being truly happy. "

"I thought that once I had the baby I would love being a mother and a wife. The truth is I hate it. I couldn't love my child anymore, his smile touches a part of my heart that no one else can, but I don't like being his mother.
It is just a burden I don't want to deal with at this point of my life. The feeding, the changing, the constant neediness, which I know will perpetuate until the day I die. I decided to breastfeed him and still do and regret every day I decided to do this. It has been 14mo since he was born and I still have no ownership of my body. I have tried to ween him, but he become unbearable."

"I have two children, 5 years and 22 months, and god they fight and scream at each other. My 5 year old just doesn't listen to anything we say. Everything revolves around them, the house, the wife, the mother. But what about ME!!! God I agree with one of the comments about people moaning about 30 minute lunch break, what a blooming luxury. We are doing the smiley faces, the sad faces and point charts and nothing seems to bother our 5 year old. She just doesn't listen. Then the media has a nerve to blame the parents, well crap because we are doing everything we can and nothing is working. I honestly don't know what to do! I just don't cope with stress and really wonder why the hell I ever went in for children.

Don't get me wrong I love them to bits and want them to be good kids and not be affected by any of this when they are older. But it does worry me! It's constant negotiating over everything, WHEN will it get better, because I am really unhappy at the moment!"

"I have a 18 month and a 2 month old and i am so depressed, overwhelmed, anxious and upset. and no, its not ppd - its the fact that i know this isn't going to get better until they are school aged. I dont even have enough time to type this because my kids are waking up at this unholy hour of 6:45. This is not what i expected it to be like. they are taking everything out of me."

"I'm a 27 year old mother of two, ages 10 months and 23 months. Most of the time I walk around in a daze, hoping people don't notice the snot wiped on my coat or the bags under my eyes. I feel ancient, decrepit, what's worse is that my husband is successful and interesting. I had ambition once to write and be taken seriously, but now I'm just useless. I have a college degree, but can't even imagine now how I would go about writing an essay, how to engage in a conversation about anything other than poop and teething.

I hate my body and I hate what I've become. I too live far from family and friends as we've relocated for my husband's career. I've no babysitter, no relatives, no one to talk to but my children who can't speak yet. I don't see any way out of this gilded cage of a life. Today, and most days, I hate being a mother... we're treated worse than animals. What will become of us?"

"It's not everyday that I hate being a mother. Just most days. I realize that I did this to myself and I have to "do my time". But this is overwhelming sometimes. I feel so held back, stressed out, irritated and depressed by this whole thing. I am literally counting down the days until she leaves to go to college. 2,800 days. I feel like a person in prison. But I just want my life back. I feel wrong in a way but I really just want to be free."

"Ever since I have my baby, I just felt so regreted of that decision. I love her as a person, but I hate being her mom. I felt like I missed out my life, my freedom. My life was perfect without her. My hubby and I were madly in love and we travel a lot. We still wanted to do so much adventure together, but now we are trapped in this parenting world"

"I also feel sorry for myself and my hubby about losing "us" in this kid world. Before the baby, we have each other, we love and care for each other, we both love traveling and exploring the world. But now, we feel old, indifferent and just bored." I still think the best solution for us is to find another couple who can raise our daugther, while we can still support her either financially, or even babysit her once in a while. I will never get out of this big hole I dug for myself. This is hard and harder that we have no way out but to live with this mistake."

I suffer just reading this stuff, I can't imagine having to live it. Anyone reading this who has the same feelings probably has no business having kids. I know I don't and have no shame in saying so...I am shamelessly childfree and have vowed that this will never be my life. Parenthood is anything but temporary as the last quote so beautifully stated. There is no way out, you have to endure it. It's a long road. My plea is for people to stop being so fucking shortsighted about it, that's all.