I usually don't comment on Mommy Blogs but after reading this article and the comments over at BabyCenter, I had to respond to a piece of parenting propaganda.

As you all know, I have written extensively about women who HATE motherhood. It's a new phenomenon to hear the hate stories thanks to the glorious interwebs.

Anyway, an inquisitive fence sitter, Megan, decided to posted a comment making her uncertainty about starting a family known. She partly states: "I am a little reluctant to have kids because the number of hardships and sacrifices I hear about seem to outweigh the joys and rewards."

Of course this sentiment alarms any breeder dedicated to promoting mommyhood and the facade that having kids is ALWAYS WORTH IT!!!!

So, another commenter, Lena decided to assuage all of Megan's (rightful and reasonable) fears about parenthood and replace them with new ones! She assured Megan that she will NEVER regret having kids. She'll only regret NOT having them!!!!

That ought to scare a fetus right into her empty uterus!

Isn't that rich.

She knows absolutely nothing about this woman's lifestyle, marriage, maternal instincts, NOTHING. How in the sam hell does SHE know that this woman isn't going to regret spawning? How can she all but GUARANTEE someone they will regret not having kids?

The audacity!

That's one thing I despise. Giving blanket advice to procreate when it may not really be in a person's best interest. The exaltation of parenthood as being the MOST meaningful act in life- one that is above reproach and regret really bothers the fuck out of me. IT'S FUCKING PROPAGANDA AND BULLSHITTERY.

Stop lying to people about shit this irreversible and serious breeders!

Ugh!

Anyway I tried to bring Megan back down to reality with this comment:

"I actually think it’s really disingenuous to tell Megan that she will "never regret having children" when according to a lot of mothers who seek solace in the anonymity of True Mom Confessions, their own personal blogs, and the internet in general, that is not always the case.

Plenty of women have expressed regret and remorse over being parents and unfortunately it’s not something they can go back and change now that they have the proper insight.

Megan, I would only say that it’s much more comforting to regret NOT having a child than regret having one and being stuck in the parent role for the next 20+ years and have it negatively affect every other area of your life. Socially, financially, emotionally, professionally, maritally, and in EVERY other way imaginable."

The difference between my comment and Lena's comment? One of us is dealing in plausible reality and one of us is dealing in assumptions, false assertions, and wishful thinking in order to convince someone to make a life-altering decision that may not be in their own self-interest.