Comments on Childfree Clique: Yay, Mommy Hate Mail!

I think breeders who visit CF sites are really dee...

2010-08-15T13:05:45.750-07:00

I think breeders who visit CF sites are really deep down unhappy, and jealous of us!

For the most part, childfree do not troll the chil...

2010-04-28T14:51:55.828-07:00

For the most part, childfree do not troll the childed and moo sites. Some do but it is not as frequent as the moos.
For one thing, the sense of entitlement rises exponentially when the moo drops a calf. It increases accordingly with each additional sex trophy.

I wish I had cut and pasted this piece of revenge (since email addys were in this) but some years back (and I'm cutting this way short) a childfree woman made the mistake of dating a co-worker who had a teenage moo on the side. Teen moo was super immature insane jealous and started harassing this woman on the phone. she and her tarded friends, but wasn't smart enough to block her phone number. Teen moos phone number was posted on a site (complete with the whole background story) and whomever was invited to join in a little 'payback'. If I remember correctly, teen moo was hysterical after a few days... paybacks are hell and she got exactly what she was dishing out.

Well done. Now I will go home to celebrate this th...

2010-03-26T09:42:37.181-07:00

Well done. Now I will go home to celebrate this thrashing over a quiet, healthy, organic dinner, adore my dogs, take a leisurely walk around my beautiful neighborhood, perhaps enjoy a bubble bath, have an uninterrupted phone conversation with a friend, watch whatever I want to on TV, and enjoy a full night's sleep in my clean, comfy bedroom. Who's with me?

"being dependent on my husband for income isn...

2010-03-09T05:46:47.103-07:00

"being dependent on my husband for income isn't as scary as it may seem"

Hahaahahahahahaahahahahahahahahahaahahaahahahaahaa!

As a tween, I watched my mother crash and burn with that one. The most important lesson my mother ever taught me by example (because she apparently learned little from it herself based on her behavior) was to never, ever to make yourself dependent on a man for money. Reading that little snippet made me twitch.

EEK! HawkMom has joined a CF board! WTF?!!

2010-02-25T13:36:32.836-07:00

EEK! HawkMom has joined a CF board! WTF?!!

TeeHee laughing my ass off right now at all the ro...

2010-02-23T18:21:51.269-07:00

TeeHee laughing my ass off right now at all the rockin' posts on this topic. I wish I could count the times my mother friends have looked at me longingly and with envy in their eyes over my lifestyle filled with what I want to do, when I want to do it and with money that is MINE but I would probably need to have 3,275 hands to count that high. haha!

I have seen her on another childfree sight that I ...

2010-01-30T16:02:09.609-07:00

I have seen her on another childfree sight that I like to follow and she drives me CRAZY with her stupid comments. I wonder how she has so much time to be on the internet when she has a ton of kids and a husband to take care of. I love to read my cf sights and know I am not the only woman who never wanted children, but to see her comments makes me want to smack her upside the head! I wish she would get a life and stay out of ours!

After I read a heteful breeder's comment, I re...

2010-01-24T17:36:21.621-07:00

After I read a heteful breeder's comment, I really felt compelled to leave a comment, though I usually don´t. I admit it was my fault: I got into a Mommy site, but I dhad typed "Childfree", so I obviously expected a childfree site, not a parentnting site BERATING us. (I wonder if that was on purpose.....The site is in spanish, it is called "BEBE Y MÄS", and the page is called "Motherhood is the emotional caviar of the poor", but the page was all about the book "40 reasons not to have children", the famous book by a French woman that had children and realised it was not the best choice. They make dog food out of her. and all the good ideas in their book about why motherhood just isn´t a good idea .Tell me... is she´s so comfortable with her choice, why does she feels the need to put down those that don´t share it???? She is just a hatefult breeder. I find the side so full of hate, that maybe she deserves a visitation by us, why why should we pay attention to all that old school stupidity (It's aaaaall worth it") when we have our own childfree sites But all her idiotic name calling (same as usual, selfish inmatire, etc) , as well her holier-than-thou, sanctimonious attitude made me realize that if i´m to become like her, I made the right decision not to have kids....ALL THE MORE REASON TO KEEP BEING CHILDFREE, EVERYONE!!!!!

Re: that moo blog about missing the chaos that moo...

2010-01-21T10:46:20.460-07:00

Re: that moo blog about missing the chaos that moohood brings while with young kids.

I was at my Breeder in law's house, and both the men (duhds of pre teens now) who married into the family said right in front of my breeder MIL and maybe even their breeder wives, "Gosh, I don't miss when my kids were little...."

I gave a nudge to my hubby and the bug-eyed "see what I mean" look. But he ignored me, but he heard it. (made me happy because sometimes he thinks I'm too militant about CF topics)

So, don't buy the BS, there's nothing to miss in the long run, the poop, the smells, the baths after working all day, not to mention the crying, food dilemmas, arguing about homework and bedtimes.....SAHMs lie to others and themselves, like this one, to just get themselves thru their own personal hell they created for themselves.

And the consensus is......Hawkmom has been shown t...

2010-01-20T20:26:43.740-07:00

And the consensus is......Hawkmom has been shown to the door, she's off the guest list, No VIP privileges and NO we will NOT be validating her parking! Trespassing will be viewed as stalking at which point shots will be fired ...aimed at her ego, emotional and mental state.

Actually, she does frequent another CF blog, which...

2010-01-20T01:20:12.408-07:00

Actually, she does frequent another CF blog, which I also visit, and I find her posts to be consistently intelligent, thoughtful and polite.

I don't know what her original comment here was, but it would be very out of character for her to be at all condescending or breederish.

In my quite extensive dealings with HawkMum, I've found her to be perfectly reasonable and never offensive.

Perhaps if you re-read it without a veil of defensiveness you might see that she was just presenting another point of view.

We need more HawkMums out there - she is an ally not a foe!

Yeah I thought maybe you had attached the wrong li...

2010-01-18T11:13:23.345-07:00

Yeah I thought maybe you had attached the wrong link, I didn't see anything really noteworthy there.

I'm not childfree chick, but I want to comment...

2010-01-18T07:48:25.452-07:00

I'm not childfree chick, but I want to comment:

What a load of BS! That woman wants to stay home with her kids because the time that passes will never come back? There are plenty of things happening at home or outside that won't come back, does that mean we should all quit our jobs and hope next month's rent will magically fall out of the sky? I'm all for enjoying the moment, but that doesn't mean you can ditch your responsibilities. Or do you really think the kids will go "gee, my stomach is empty and we have to live in a cardboard box, but at least mommy gave me a looooong bath when I was three!". Uhm... no.

All I see is another moomie blog.

2010-01-18T06:40:35.387-07:00

All I see is another moomie blog.

I can't believe people do that. I'm just n...

2010-01-15T11:56:34.430-07:00

I can't believe people do that. I'm just now discovering the CF blogs so I have a lot to learn, I guess. Why would you visit them hoping to get your SAHM lifestyle validated?

(Slightly off-topic, but couldn't find your e-...

2010-01-15T03:13:06.848-07:00

(Slightly off-topic, but couldn't find your e-mail address)

I'm completely on your side regarding CF, but I read this pro-mommy article and I'd love to hear your opinion on it. Especially since it's a different tone than the usual "it's all worth it" nonsense.

http://www.mycharmingkids.net/2010/01/im-gonna-miss-this.html

She's mad because pushing a loaf out of her va...

2010-01-12T02:06:40.872-07:00

She's mad because pushing a loaf out of her vag is all she's ever done in her life and you've shaken her out of her fantasy world where that's an actual accomplishment.

I feel accomplished in the fact that I've been menstruating for 16 years and NOT ONE of my eggs has turned into a fucking fetus. Know why? Because I'm responsible. That's my accomplishment. But do you think I'll get my clit in a twist if someone says it's not? Hell no. I don't give a fuck. I'm secure with my life choices. Obviously SAHMoo isn't, and that's why her clit is in square knots over your opinion. Fucking dumb broad, leeching off the system because she was stupid and made stupid choices. Fuck her.

I've seen 'Hawkmom' comment on another...

2010-01-11T23:44:55.660-07:00

I've seen 'Hawkmom' comment on another site and I can't help wondering why a woman who claims that having a kid was the best thing that happend to her yada yada frequent childfree blogs. Her comments are often a justification for the Motherhood/Baby con and/or a contradiction of her own statements but yet she's on these sites. Methinks she needs to be on some shrinks black couch to find out HOW SHE REALLY FEELS. And you are right a shun topics, blogs, shows etc where women start cooing about wanting to breed, the joy of breeding and all related bullshit that turn women to walking vagina's in search of insemination. So again why pray tell is this woman on our side of the fence instead of with her ovulating, lactating, breeder friends?!!!!

What an assclown. I agree with Sanne- it's n...

2010-01-11T12:41:13.637-07:00

What an assclown.

I agree with Sanne- it's not like you came out of the woodworks and stumbled onto HER turf and started judging her life just for the hell of it. She came HERE, read what you wrote and then seemed to want some kind of an exception from your opinion even though she's just the kind of swine you were talking about in the first place.

WTF?

And then proves she has NO LIFE and is devastated by your opinion by taking the time to write that ridiculous email.

Petty ass loser. HawkMom don't you have like 49 loads of baby clothes to wash? Get off of childfree sites and go do your wifely duties before you end up in a shelter.

I'm thinking that she is hoping we (the other ...

2010-01-11T08:18:44.543-07:00

I'm thinking that she is hoping we (the other commenters) are going to switch to her side after her 'noble' tale and gang up on you. Uhm... not going to happen, lady. Not in a million years.

I've said it before, I'm confident that 99% of all SAHMs don't stay home for their shiny new toy... erm... kid, but because they don't want to return to their sucky jobs. And I can actually understand that somewhat. When I take the train to college, I look out the window at highrise, soulless corporate buildings and think: "sweet batman, please don't ever let me end up in one of those!". I exit the train and see a depressing grey mass of people headed for their jobs when the sun hasn't even risen and return home when it has long set again. I desperately want to avoid that soulsucking deathtrap when I graduate (or at least stay in it for as short as possible), and becoming a SAHM would be one way out. However, it would just lead me right into another cage, one that is infinitly more horrible than a random cubicle. I'll find a different way to escape the ratrace, even if it takes more work.

Smackdown!!! She's the angry, bitter one for ...

2010-01-11T07:39:04.294-07:00

Smackdown!!!

She's the angry, bitter one for attacking people on their own personal blog, which is clearly intended for an entirely different audience. if she's so secure and confident in her lifestyle, then why does she feel the need to go out of her way to defend it? If your post had been on a public forum, then maybe. But this was on your own turf and if she doesn't like it, then she can start her own blog and whine about it there. Are we sending random angry emails to authors of mommy blogs? No, because we're feeling confident about our own choices in life.

She just hates you for bursting her bubble. Funny how she doesn't have one single argument for her case, other then "you're mean!". Denial, denial, denial.

Wow... She admitted to living the lifestyle that y...

2010-01-10T21:06:50.064-07:00

Wow...
She admitted to living the lifestyle that you JUST SAID you disapproved of, so I don't understand why she expected you to make some sort of allowance for her just because she thinks she's "hip" and "non-conformist" enough to subscribe to a childfree blog even though she's a SAHM.

It always tickles me when they pull the "I ha...

2010-01-10T17:11:24.769-07:00

It always tickles me when they pull the "I have a childfree friend who isn't a bitch like you!" card. I always wonder if they pull this with people of another race. "What's your prob? Geez! I have a black friend who isn't a bitch like you!" *giggle*

Rock ON! You Meanie McMeaniepants,you, heh! Just w...

2010-01-10T13:20:03.869-07:00

Rock ON! You Meanie McMeaniepants,you, heh!
Just went back and read her comment again.
I'm so glad she would set HER pride aside to skim money out of OUR pockets to go onto assistance.
Real big of her.
And thank you for this.
Actually, thank you for EXISTING :)) [hope you don't get to angry at me for saying that, grrrrrr, hee!]

Oh my stars, another dumb breeder frequenting a CF...

2010-01-10T11:13:25.350-07:00

Oh my stars, another dumb breeder frequenting a CF site (probably because she's envious of the CF life and lives vicariously through us) and getting her feelings hurt over the truth.

Dontcha know CF chick you were supposed to marvel at the fact that she'd be in a shelter cashing in WIC tickets if her husband wasn't around?

How dare you look at a situation and call it for what it is- especially after she willingly gave you details and anxiously awaited your opine?

The reaction is no different from every other SAHM with few provisions or contingency plans. Barraging her with facts cut like a knife and she had to take you to task over it to make herself feel secure and superior.

I love that her feelings were so damaged that she emailed you a "tsk tsk, I'm taking my ball & leaving the playground". And I love even more that you published it and put your humorous spin on it.